In part two of Pushing Things Under The Rug we ended with the realization that when we begin to love and respect ourselves we can no longer leave our stuff under the rug. It's time to shake it out.
I don't know what you are going through. I don't know what you have hidden or why you don't share your most vulnerable truths. But I do know the following because I know my truths and sometimes I can voice my truths and other times I am still on the journey;
- Voicing your truths eases the pain.
- Healing is better than hiding.
- You are worthy to live a life of happiness.
- You are strong, wise and brave.
- Your emotions are valid and you deserve to feel and show your emotions.
- Doing the work is better than fearing the work.
- Pain is part of life and suffering is not required.
- Asking for help is a gift and a gift to the people you love.
- You are not meant to be alone.
No one asked me if I wanted to have pain, crises, and distress in my life but I did and I do. It is how I choose to respond. Pushing my feelings, and pain under the proverbial rug is no longer effective for me. I'll bet it's not serving you well either.
Taking the risk to honor yourself is the only way to save yourself. For all the challenges that have crossed my path and will cross my path, I have found true self respect, deep friendships, a marriage that is worth fighting for because we are both in it, and self worth. My heart is full and yours can be too.
Dear women with hurting hearts: you matter and so do your truths and desires. You don't have to go it alone. We all need process people, someone that will listen and guide you on your path. There's someone out there that can help you through. Please don't hesitate to reach out out if you feel that person may be me.